Is there any special ceremony performed when removing my choora?

Question:

As tradition I did wear my choora for 40 days. But neither my husband nor any of his family members are here. He is away for business and his parents are back home in India.
I just wanted to know if I can take it off myself; is there any special ceremony performed that I need to do?  Please help.

 

Eshaji,

Thank you for your question. Traditionally, the choora was worn for one year after the wedding, but today brides can choose to wear it for any length of time up to one year. Tradition states that once the choora is removed, brides can begin their role as the woman of the house and begin to take over duties from their mother-in-law. But it seems you are already taking on the chores of the household being alone. It was custom for brides to wear it for 40 days which you have, but seeing as your husband is away he cannot remove it for you, so you can keep it on until he comes back or call your mother-in-law for consultation.  It is best to consult your mother-in-law and follow their traditions, as customs vary from family to family.  Some girls often take off their choora on their own and there’s nothing wrong with that. I believe that we all have to adjust to the situations we are put in and tradition can carry on in varying ways.

Once removed the choora can be kept as a keepsake by the bride. Sometimes girls would like to have preserved as they would with their bouquet in a glass case. This can be kept virtually anywhere in the house as an ornamental piece or decor but most have been known to keep it in their bedroom. If you remove it on your own and store it nicely, I’m sure your husband will surely be pleased to see it kept and cherished. 

 I hope this helps. Have a wonderful married life.

Aapke,

Auntyji's Signature

Can the chunni and kurmai be held on the same day?

Question: My daughter is getting engaged and we will be having the engagement at their home in the back yard with tents, as their house is big and the groom said it would be okay.  Can the chunni and kurmai be held in their house the same day or do each sides have to comeContinue Reading

How are the costs of a wedding shared?

Question:  I want to enquire who pays for the reception, the food, entertainment, hall and other associated costs of a wedding?  Shobaji, Thank you for your questions once again. I hope I have been of some assistance to you already.  As we already know the costs associated with Indian weddings can be very high. TraditionallyContinue Reading

Advice needed for step son’s wedding

Question: Hi Auntyji, My step son is getting married and we are in the process to do up the wedding cards. My step son insists on putting his mother’s name together with my name and my husband’s name (his father) on the wedding card. We’ve been married for about 17 years, and my step sonContinue Reading

Confused About Indian Wedding Traditions and After Wedding Traditions.

Your articles are quite interesting and informative. I feel quite confused about Indian wedding traditions and after wedding traditions and am looking for some clarity. Many thanks for your continued advice.  A much required service to the community. Debbie Debbieji, Thank you for your questions. I hope that my response will shed some light on theseContinue Reading

Site built and maintained by Pure Fire Media